Don’t tell me to love my body without doing anything to challenge everything around us that actively hates it. Don’t tell me to love my body when you have never loved or wanted to love a fat body.
Asam / IGF (via itgetsfatter)
Asam / IGF (via itgetsfatter)
"Can chubbier girls be pastel goth /.\? Like i see a bunch of cute skinny girls who are mostly in the style, and it makes me feel extremely bad because im obviously super chubby :/! If so any suggestions or stores out there who sell a size bigger than just small? idk im just not lucky enough to find something my size :( (like a M and sometimes L)" - Anonymous message I received today.
- Art by Gunkiss
I really want to touch upon a lot of things in both of these messages, because I feel it’s important that you lovely ladies know that you have full support from everyone here when it comes to Pastel Goth and Pastel Grunge, no matter your size, shape, or bootyliciousness.
So, I think I’m going to write up another help post specifically covering how to find P. Goth and P. Grunge clothing in larger sizes, and how to coord with confidence, if you guys don’t mind waiting for it! Until then, I do tag all of my #plus size finds, so hopefully you can find something there as well!
But to answer your other concern, keetande, I’m 21, and I know plenty of other ladies here who are older. “Dressing your age” is boring. As long as you’re able to cater your outfits to specific situations (such as not wearing bat tights to a job interview) and you use your actions to define your maturity, you’ll be A+. There will always be a dingus who rolls their eyes or tries to belittle you, but you have to remember that wearing what makes you happy isn’t something you have to grow out of!
Body Positivity for the win.
9 out of 16 are WoC from 9 different nationalities - Spanish, Native American, Middle Eastern, Greek, Hawaiian, South African, Indian, African-American and Chinese.
Even the “white” people don’t all come from the same place - French, Irish, American, Scottish, German, and English.
I’m really sorry if I left out YOUR nationality or YOUR body type, but if I kept going to include every single possible woman in the world I’d never have time for sleep or school work.
I’ve been a massage therapist for many years, now. I know what people look like. People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what you’d look like on my table.
Let’s start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they don’t have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. That’s how it works. And that’s very appealing too.
Woman have cellulite. All of them. It’s dimply and cute. It’s not a defect. It’s not a health problem. It’s the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks. Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say — what, this is it? They’re kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because it’s unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or they’ll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesn’t matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I don’t know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as you’re all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule. At that first long sigh, at that first thought that “I can stop hanging on now, I’m safe” – a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and we’re easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: I’m in it for the glow.
I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
Think about who you are beneath the skin.
In the most fundamental space you occupy, who are you? Write it down.
We all need to be reminded that who we are is a fluid constancy, divorced from the form we are in.
Plus size model Viktoria Manas
Wh-why do we even have XS-models anymore, when we could have more beauties like this??? I might just have developed a girl-crush on her. Seriously.
she’s really gorgeous, but let’s not put down smaller ladies^
The only thing that gets me is the fact she is called a ‘plus-size model’ why do we even need that label? She clearly is by every definition a model, so why the added label? We are a growing society and by now you would assume that even equality amongst body types and shapes would be better. Now I know I haven’t explained this well enough but it’s just a thought.
always glorify my own body (especially the parts society hates) because if i don’t who the fuck will
because essentially what you’re saying when you say girls are being too vain or taking too many photos is “stop being so pleased with your looks and be more modest about them”
but fuck that and let teen girls be vain if they want and proud about how they look
The Nu Project is a series of honest nudes of women from all over the world. The project began in 2005 and has stayed true to the original vision: no professional models, minimal makeup and no glamour. The focus of the project has been and continues to be the subjects and their personalities, spaces, insecurities and quirks.
plot twist: an overweight character in tv whose personality is not central to her weight
“We have decided that we are going to be a sugar-free dorm room.” These bold words came confidently out of my college friend’s mouth as her and her roommate quickly transferred their sweets into a box outside their door labeled ‘Free Food’. As I excitedly scooped up as many free cookie boxes as I could carry, I couldn’t help but think how sad life would be without sugar. I LOVE sugar! My body loves sugar! My body needs sugar for activity, for my brain, and just because it is so damn good! Sadly enough, these two girls were not the only ones who had decided on this ‘no sugar’ New Year’s resolution.
Our society has trained us to see the world in black and white, leaving us no wiggle room to live in the gray area. For many years, I was caught in a destructive cycle of perfectionism, living only in the black and white categories of life. I either gave something my all, or simply wouldn’t attempt it. Perfectionism had me wrapped around its finger, and I struggled to stay afloat living on the two opposite ends of the spectrum. Little did I know that my life could be beautifully balanced if I would just migrate to the gray area.
What is the gray area you may ask? The gray area is where HUMANS live. The gray area allows us to eat sugar in moderation, it grants us permission to take a break, and leaves us room to make mistakes. When I suffered with an eating disorder, I would often label foods “good” foods and “bad” foods. I lived entirely in the “good” food section, and every so often would binge on the “bad” foods. This led me down a dark path of self-hatred and trapped me with all or nothing thinking.
Today, I am free to live a happy, fulfilling, and enjoyable life in the gray area. I eat sugar every day (most likely more than once a day!!), I give myself permission to take care of myself, and I do not demand myself to be perfect. I live a balanced and peaceful life.
As the 2013 approaches, I encourage you to really think deeply about your New Year’s resolution. Is your resolution going to lead you towards a life of self-love and happiness, or is it going to guide you into all or nothing thinking? Don’t trap yourself—the gray area is always there if you just look for it!
So I’m just really glad that’s not you and also you give me hope for humanity with all the positiveness and thank you for being wonderful <3
Hello dear anon. Just a few points I want to make.
While I understand what you’re trying to say, I do think it comes off as disrespectful. It’s one thing to attack the root of thinspo and understand where body hate comes from, it’s another to shame people with eating disorders. What this person does isn’t healthy and I can only hope one day they can educate themselves through body acceptance. It’s not easy, but one can always set a good example.
So for that I am happy to be able to help and show those people that I won’t judge them and that they can learn to love themselves against body hatred and fatphobia. What I wouldn’t do is relish in the fact that I’m not them. It’s hurtful and one is no better than them since we’re all trying our best to find how we’d be happinest (hopefully.) If you do want to help out and learn more, I suggest checking out my body positive and body acceptance tags. Like everyone else, you could learn a little more. And if you do, you’ll be doing yourself and those around you a grand favor. Who knows, you might even help save someone who’s too scared to ask for help.
Just don’t forget, thin people aren’t better than us. And we aren’t better than them. So rather than othering them, try a different approach.
To end my ramble, I’m quite glad you find my posts inspiring! ^u^
Feel free to ask or look up more on the subject!!
What are your top beauty tips?
Start out perfect and don’t change a thing. Always accentuate your best features by pointing at them. And conceal your flaws by sucker punching anyone who has the audacity to mention them.
Never too old to learn from the Muppets.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye.” (also Miss Piggy)